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8 Things to Never Do on a First Date

Posted Wed, Sep 03, 2008, 3:58 pm PDT
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Ah, the first date -- you've been primping and plucking, and it's finally show time. After all that work you don't want to send them running for the hills because of something thoughtless you did at the table or in the car. Here are eight key guidelines on what to avoid...

"I Don't Valet"  Sure, some people don't like to leave their cars in the hands of a valet. We get that. But if you've driven around the block more than three times and you're prepared to go an additional five until you find street parking (even if the spot is blocks away), quit while you're ahead. Avoiding the valet makes you look cheap and that's not a good look, especially on a first date.

Nix Your Ex  Never go on about any of your exes. Obsessing over them makes you look insecure. And when's the last time someone found that attractive in a prospective mate? If you're still bruised over an ex or simply enjoy discussing old flames, spout off to a friend or family member -- anyone, but not that cutie who just asked you out for Friday night!

Texting...  or answering your mobile phone for social purposes are big no-no's on a date. And please don't try to be sneaky or "polite" by attempting to text under the table. It's obnoxious. Ask yourself if you like the person you're with enough to leave your phone for a couple hours. If you still can't resist, go to the bathroom.

Don't Be Nosey  No blowing your schnoz at the table. And you might think this goes without saying, but it doesn't: the same goes for picking your teeth. People do the most absent-minded and unattractive things on dates, so step it up a little bit. If you desperately need to take some hygienic action, simply excuse yourself and go to town some place else, just not at the table.

Play Nice  Being rude to the wait staff is a major turn off. And please lay off of the snapping when you need your waiter's attention. It's always best to keep your cool -- nothing's more attractive than that.

Pass On The Pricey Stuff  Ordering the 3 lb. lobster and filet dinner or the homemade pasta with a mound of freshly shaved white truffles is obnoxious no matter who's paying. Don't go for the gold. Show a little class by sticking with the moderately priced ticket items.

Booze It ‘Til You Lose It  Just one drink too many and you may find yourself saying and doing things that make all of the above look like afternoon charm school. And even if you don't go crazy, you might do some over-sharing that you'll regret in the morning. So, never go overboard on alcohol -- it's a safety issue as well as an etiquette one.

Ditch The Dutch  We may sound old-fashioned but when a guy asks a girl out, there's only one way to go on a first date when the bill arrives -- the guy pays. No matter how many times the woman offers to chip in, the answer is "thank you, but no." It's just the thing to do to make her feel special. And be clear. Wavering can be just as bad as accepting her money. 

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  • 1. Posted by antdavgan on Sat, Sep 06, 2008, 1:36 pm PDT

    why do you need to make her feel special on a first date? You really don't even know her so there is no possible way she could be special to you, at best she is just a person of interest. Be real, women don't ask men out because they don't want to pay the tab.

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  • 2. Posted by emmycello77 on Sat, Sep 06, 2008, 10:39 pm PDT

    Hmmm...let's think about this one: why would you want to make somebody feel special? So that if you are interested, there's maybe a teeny-weeny little chance that she is interested in you, doofus! Women don't want to be with men that treat them like crap, so even if you're not sure you're gonna marry your date, at least behave like you're a little interested so that she'll be interested in you. Nothing's more frustrating and pointless than going out with someone who could care less and shows it. If you treat someone like crap, don't be surprised if you get the cold shoulder from every woman in town.

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  • 3. Posted by silancedogz on Mon, Sep 08, 2008, 10:46 am PDT

    And what if the girl asks the guy out with the intention of paying for his meal/entertainment, and he has an awful time and can't wait to get the hell out of there? Should he still offer to pay? Methinks that might send the wrong signal. It's an equal-opportunity scene out there, folks. You asked, you pay. And I am a girl.

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  • 4. Posted by Jeef on Tue, Sep 09, 2008, 9:58 pm PDT

    50 50 even during the dating process... guys if you want to be nice pay the bill and ask her to leave the tip....

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  • 5. Posted by ................... on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 6:47 pm PDT

    wow seriously!! why would she have even agreed to go out with you the second time after you did that! geesh what a gentleman you are!

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  • 6. Posted by dana on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 6:59 pm PDT

    ohhhhhh

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  • 7. Posted by mamasreddbaby on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 6:59 pm PDT

    lmao!!! CHARRO UR HILARIOUS!!!

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  • 8. Posted by lf8689 on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:00 pm PDT

    well antdavgan... if you're trying to get laid on you're first date, make her feel special at dinner so you can feel special later on

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  • 9. Posted by eleven_o_five on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:00 pm PDT

    Ditch the valet! I would rather enjoy a bit of a walk with my date than pay to park, which I think is a waste of money.

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  • 10. Posted by thebugger on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:01 pm PDT

    Right...because he was being so serious.

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  • 11. Posted by None N on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:01 pm PDT

    comment number 5 by Charro is classic!!! hahahaha!!

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  • 12. Posted by lilygrace@sbcglobal.net on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:01 pm PDT

    well you made that up!

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  • 13. Posted by Nick P on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:01 pm PDT

    Is McDonalds OK for the 1st date?

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  • 14. Posted by Gram49 on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:02 pm PDT

    When can you start making the bill 50/50?

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  • 15. Posted by IIovejohnL on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:02 pm PDT

    lmao at charro hahha but yeah the texting dont do that thats so rude! i hate when guys do that. so thats why i dont do it. it just shows a sign that your bored.....

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  • 16. Posted by mamasreddbaby on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:02 pm PDT

    lmao!!! CHARRO UR HILARIOUS!!!

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  • 17. Posted by lindseyk118 on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:03 pm PDT

    ok seriously for the ppl that are complaining about the guy paying... GROW UP! In an adult relationship it's proper etiquette for the guy to pay for the first date. On the second or third date, you can split it 50/50 or have her pay. If you're gonna be feminist, then you shouldn't date because nothing turns a guy off more than a girl having a power trip. Besides what you think, it makes the guy feel special for paying because it's jis way of showing that he has the money to take care of you.

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  • 18. Posted by jeivos on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:04 pm PDT

    how about women makin' man special. 50/50 agreed.

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  • 19. Posted by on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:06 pm PDT

    hOLD THE WEDDIN'; WHY WOULD SOMEONE WANT TO MAKE SOMEONE ELSE FEEL THEY ARE SPECIAL?

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  • 20. Posted by roseyroses14 on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:06 pm PDT

    I remember having a debate over who pays the check in the end, its whoever asks should pay. Usually, if you want to be old-fashioned, the guy will pick up the check. But nowadays, if you're asking that means you're paying, no exceptions. Well, unless you both agree to go to the bathroom at the same time and crawl out the windows, but I doubt you'd find someone willing to do that.

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  • 21. Posted by Stars S on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:06 pm PDT

    I don't understand why everyone thinks it's only the girls who deserve to be treated special. Split the checks, people.

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  • 22. Posted by kfordlou on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:06 pm PDT

    or more like "why did you ask her out on a second date after you had to crawl out the window on the first one?"

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  • 23. Posted by kpaluoian on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:07 pm PDT

    Any woman that wouldn't go out with a guy again if he didn't use valet parking or let the woman pay part of the meal is a shallow woman that isn't worth seeing again anyways.

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  • 24. Posted by Alan on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:08 pm PDT

    Helllllllo, Gary Quarton!!! :) Please tell me that you are a friend of "Charro", and that he gave you $5 or a beer to enter your comment after his, to make his comment sound more believable to anyone who believes whatever they read without thinking about it at all. Charro has shown us that he can type something mildly entertaining along the lines of idiot comedy; but I guarantee you that it did not happen. Period.

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  • 25. Posted by cbrambl on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:09 pm PDT

    Yeah, I know that I would actually be offended if I couldn't pay for my part of the bill. I'm not helpless, and I'm not going to let myself feel guilty for letting somebody blow their money on something I got. Though I do like it when a guy does offer, it means he's trying to make an effort.

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  • 26. Posted by Jack F on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:09 pm PDT

    ABSOLUTELY AGREE--ESPECIALLY ON THE TEXTING--You girls need to listen up on that one--you're almost all bad at this. No answering the phone or texting while out with a guy--I don't do it to them. Like picking my nose--I'll check my phone messages/calls/texts in the bathroom. Otherwise it's just rude.

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  • 27. Posted by brandtgibson14 on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:09 pm PDT

    I'm sorry but you are all idiots.

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  • 28. Posted by angel on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:09 pm PDT

    most of you fellows should just pack it up and go home alone! apprarently my generation have raised abunch of animals! humm dosen't say much for our parenting skills does it!

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  • 29. Posted by crimson_author on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:09 pm PDT

    lol... are you sure about that emmycello77? Most women I know are dating compelte [profane]s that treat them like crap. Remember high school as well? Girls lining up to date the jock that treated them like crap for awhile before moving on? And if you say you don't know any woman like that, you're full of it.

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  • 30. Posted by austin_rolling on Fri, Sep 12, 2008, 7:10 pm PDT

    That is funny as hell

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