31. Posted by John L on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 10:36 am PDT

I agree .If I am coming from out of town thekids are coming to the wedding also.It is rude to expect me to ditch the kids with someone.If not I will stay home.Sorry but thats the breaks.

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32. Posted by baby-got-back j on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 10:37 am PDT

never get married for the wrong reasons or push up the wedding date b 4 time just because u feel that this is u'r solemate some people do things just to make the other person happy.

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33. Posted by myrddyn on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 10:37 am PDT

about kids. If the invite says "you and a guest" that doesn't mean you, a guest and three or four kids. Find a sitter or don't go. Your having had too much unprotected sex does not obligate the world to endure the brats you produce because of it. One favor. Not ten. It's a "favor" not a collection. As far as you "plus one" it should be someone that at least knows the couple. I have been at both ends of that point. You either sit with them so they aren't alone and don't enjoy as you want to, or they sit alone, you feel guilty and they wonder why you invited them -- unless it was some under handed subtle suggestion they set up and ask you... rather passive aggressive. Nothing wrong with going on your own. And the "table for onesies"? poor taste on the wedding couples part. Like saying you should be quarantined. Mix it up. Usually the singles have the little excitement the married want to inject into their now boring lives.

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34. Posted by moosie93305@sbcglobal.net on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 10:37 am PDT

amen to all the above and then some when its the wedding time.

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35. Posted by John L on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 10:38 am PDT

I disagree that your wedding gift should equal the number of plates.that is ridiculous.It's your wedding.You arepaying for it.Not the guests.Then dont invite so many people.

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36. Posted by naldoj4ever@prodigy.net on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 10:41 am PDT

DON'T,DON'T DRINK LIKE A FISH AND MAKE THEIR DAY A DOWNER!!!!!!

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37. Posted by smart_girl on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 10:41 am PDT

If you and your mate were going to a fancy/pricey restaurant for a date, you'd leave your child at home...so why bring them to a reception that specifically requests "adults only"? Get off your soap box, find a sitter and have a good time. Otherwise, stay home with the kids and send your regrets.

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38. Posted by Alicia S on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 10:42 am PDT

It's sad some people have no common sense!

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39. Posted by 2rowdyreddogs@sbcglobal.net on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 10:43 am PDT

Now somebody needs to come up with the list of 10 Things Not to do at a Funeral.I have seen some etiquette errors at funeral that could wake the dead. I gave my neice $30 bucks and told her to go to the shopping center and buy some long pants when she showed up at my father in laws funeral in hot pants and knee high boots.Everyone thought she was a hooker !

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40. Posted by Jennifer D on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 10:44 am PDT

We will be attending a wedding in April and already have a sitter lined up even though one of our children will be in the wedding. For me a ceremony is for everyone as much as possible, but a reception is often an adult themed event. I would rather have a sitter and enjoy!

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41. Posted by jpiantek@att.net on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 10:44 am PDT

I agree with all of this. I want to add one more though. My ultra tacky BIL and his wife decided to get married at a friends wedding. So they were going around telling everyone he just proposed. So tacky.

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42. Posted by Inner2YearOld on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 10:44 am PDT

Seems odd that there would be a need for this article (common sense, right?), but PEOPLE DO THIS STUFF! Yes, you should have fun when you go to a wedding, but not at the expense of everyone else. Someone spent thousands (if not tens of thousands of dollars) to make it special. Not that you should have a stick up your butt the whole time, but it's not a frat party, c'mon! Oh, and Ed, no you're not technically married once you commit. Try telling the judge that when you want half her salary if you "divorce!" Good thing "people don't realize that"! =)

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43. Posted by Mamut on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 10:49 am PDT

This is a wonderful list. May I add... Never Overindulge at the Bar and... Never 'hook-up' for the night at any wedding!

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44. Posted by justkath4now on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 10:49 am PDT

I really like the "Don't Dress Down" suggestion. I recently attended an outdoor wedding where a couple showed up in jeans, old shirts and flip flops. Not only that, they were smoking and drinking beers when they arrived. Also, a LOT of the women were wearing dresses or blouses that would have made Pamela Anderson blush. Weddings are formal occasions. Women need to wear dresses or skirts and men need to wear nice pants and button down shirts. It is a sign of respect for the bride and groom as well as the marriage ceremony itself. And kudos to Alyssa #11. I wouldn't have been that blunt, but she is right on the money. Modesty is a must at a wedding. Some brides should take that advice as well....have you seen some of those wedding dresses today? Geez!!! And last but not least, unless the invitation says "Children Welcome", leave them at home. Nothing ruins a wedding more than a baby who starts screaming in the middle of the service. Hopefully the church has a nursing room that you can use. If not, stay outside or in the foyer during the ceremony. One of my best friend's wedding video has a baby who started screaming just when she was ready to say "I do" and you can hardly hear her. She cried when she saw the video for the first time. Babies can come to receptions, but are not appropriate at the actual ceremony.

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45. Posted by PAMIZ on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 10:53 am PDT

AT MY DAUGHTERS WEDDING WE PLAN TO HAVE A ROOM SETUP FOR KIDS ONLY . PIZZA,NACHOS, COTTEN CANDY , VIDEOS, COLORING BOOKS EXT.... I'VE SEEN IT WORK .(WE PLAN TO HIRE SITTERS TO WATCH THE KIDS)

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46. Posted by Leah C on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 11:00 am PDT

Great info, really got me thinking about the behavior, that I often see at wedding,

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47. Posted by Leah C on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 11:00 am PDT

Great info, really got me thinking about the behavior, that I often see at wedding,

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48. Posted by Pamela J on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 11:01 am PDT

WORST CASE...the mother of the groom insisted on singing solos and playing musical instuments FIVE times during the reception, she was a music teacher and wanted her talent spotlighted and needed "to educate the guests" even after the father of the bride told her the bride hired a band months before . Mommy dearest even made copies of a song for everyone to sing along as one act. Needless to say the marriage didn't last a year.

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49. Posted by Inner2YearOld on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 11:01 am PDT

That's a really great idea, PAMIZ. If I were to get married again, I would set up a kids' room for sure. The little guys just have a really tough time with the adult stuff; they get cranky and rowdy and that really affects the tone of the whole event. I guess if you know that some of your guests are the types who would bring their kids anyway, either do the kids' room thing or don't invite them (if you can get away with that!). I have lots of family members who think it's fine to take their kids anywhere, my wedding included, so I wish I had thought of that!

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50. Posted by Patti L on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 11:04 am PDT

Do not switch name placecard settings at the table.The bride and groom carefully planned where they wanted their guests to be seated. It is NOT your choice

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51. Posted by Connie S on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 11:05 am PDT

These are common sense courtesies at the very least. Bottom line: don't behave like a jerk or bring anyone who will likely be disruptive.

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52. Posted by biblefandan@sbcglobal.net on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 11:06 am PDT

You need to add don't come dressed as a clown. At my daughters wedding last Friday, one of her friends came in a stupid costume top hat- one of those cheep things you get at a fair. A loud t-shirt with blood splatters on it, nose rings, baggy parachute pants, and suspenders. Mind you she is not a goth, or an emo, everyone else was dressed nicely! He stuck out like a sore thumb and took attention away from the couple getting married. It was appauling.

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53. Posted by Dwinnell H on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 11:07 am PDT

Very good rules, as to taking table decorations,sometimes they are rented. and can be quiet pricy,if they have to be paid for.Or upsetting if guests have to be asked to return them. Ex-Florist

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54. Posted by stewies4green on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 11:11 am PDT

I agree with most all of this, but I just have to address JENNIFER D and ask...you're attending a wedding in April of next year, and you already have a sitter lined up? Who in the heck knows what they're going to be doing in 8 or 9 months? How can you possibly plan for a sitter that far ahead of time? Who knows what could happen? Heaven forbid, there might not even BE a wedding. I just find that really strange...

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55. Posted by fujila2g on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 11:16 am PDT

another one that was missed and actually happened on my wedding day - DON'T PROPOSE TO YOUR GF/BF. Couldn't believe it - we're having our first dance, and we see a gathering by the window. After the dance, a groomsmen calls me over and said a guest of our from out-of-town just proposed to his girlfriend. Funny thing is, we caught it on video and we could read her lips saying "Maybe." Well, they did eventually get married - and, eventually, they got divorced. Karma you idiots - that's all I have to say.

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56. Posted by been there on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 11:23 am PDT

You are right on the mark with most of your comments. I think Ed and brian w are the jerks you need to make these rules for.We had special centerpieces on three tables for the bridal party and someone walked off with one of the vases.

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57. Posted by chicago2losangeles on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 11:24 am PDT

As a matter of fact...don't even go to the wedding! With all these rules and obsticles, why bother?! Stay home, save your travel money and pray that your loved ones elope! Chances are this wedding will end in divorce anyway. Too many rules and not enough fun. Let the bride and groom enjoy the day and laugh about the mistakes (and foolish guests) at a later date. If the bride is that worried about what others will do or say, get married in a cave...I am sure the bats and bugs will behave just fine. It the groom however you will still need to worry about!!!

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58. Posted by hockeylover123@sbcglobal.net on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 11:25 am PDT

don't take the cameras at the tables and flash them in peoples faces!!!!!!

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59. Posted by pitalet@att.net on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 11:26 am PDT

31. What wonderful information regarding to show respect at a wedding. The bride and groom are the stars of the day celebrating with family and friends. Weddings can really get to complicated and drama drama. Enjoy, show respect, have fun, the bride and groom deserve the best with this special day.

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60. Posted by dandybaby06 on Sun, Aug 03, 2008, 11:26 am PDT

I wanted to comment on the children thing. There are a lot of kids that are well behaved and listen to their parents. On the other hand, there are children who don't listen, throw fits, run around in circles screaming and throwing themselves on the floor crying because they don't get their way. If there is absolutely no way to leave the chittlins at home, perhaps parents should evauluate their kids' behavior patterns and decide if they should even go or not. Believe me, the bride and groom will understand if you choose not to show up toting the young hellions in with you.

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