31. Posted by SugarMagnolia on Mon, Jul 28, 2008, 8:15 pm PDT

I've been married now for 28 years, and we had a co-ed shower back in the dark ages, with a theme of camping. My husband and I were avid campers and it was great fun for all...

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32. Posted by silancedogz on Wed, Jul 30, 2008, 12:37 pm PDT

How many showers do one couple/bride need? Patio furniture, grills, etc.? I know one couple who got a car, and another whose shower was intended to fund their honeymoon. Hello? Is it ALL about greed now?

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33. Posted by Kelc on Thu, Jul 31, 2008, 12:58 pm PDT

th co-ed thing is dumb. like it is fine if the guy is intersetd, but seriosuly what girlfriends would want there freinds husband and friends to ruin a night or day out without there hubbys.

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34. Posted by Sara M on Thu, Jul 31, 2008, 1:05 pm PDT

My husband came to my (ahem...our) shower. I think it's a great idea!

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35. Posted by Laura on Thu, Jul 31, 2008, 4:08 pm PDT

I think that you should probably just get married and not have a shower. Showers are stupid and were originally intended as a way to tell the new bride what to expect and how to set up a home. Neither is really new to most brides these days so it's outdated. I didn't have a wedding shower and my bachlorette party was out to dinner and then a movie. My husband had his best buds over for his party, no strippers in sight. Weddings are a big waste of money and this just adds to it. So you're getting married? Okay, then go do it and be happy people came, not how much stuff you'll get.

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36. Posted by israeltraveler on Tue, Aug 05, 2008, 2:03 pm PDT

WOULD any body consider near end of shower to have the fincea come in I have seen that done plenty of times with people at my church getting married that way if certain honeymoon cloth is there to show the girls The man woun't see and he gets toeat too and enjoy the blessing

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37. Posted by Pops on Thu, Aug 07, 2008, 10:19 am PDT

I just attended a co-ed shower which was more like a fundraiser...an obnoxious attempt by the bride and groom to cash in on gifts yet again....over 200 guests, not enough food, not enough booze, no music, no entertainment. Couples need to stop with the greed and realize what a wedding celebration is truly about!

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38. Posted by Diva Maria on Thu, Aug 07, 2008, 10:48 am PDT

Usually the "co-ed" shower is the engagement party, if you choose to have one. I have only been to co-ed baby showers, which are very interesting, depending on the party planner.

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39. Posted by cem8199 on Thu, Aug 07, 2008, 12:03 pm PDT

I LOVE the idea of a co-ed bridal shower. I had a traditional women only shower. It was nice, but I wish we included my husband as well. After all, he did come with me to register for our gifts. I think he would have enjoyed opening them.... or at least coming for the good food & desserts!!

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40. Posted by Melissa on Thu, Aug 07, 2008, 12:22 pm PDT

What is wrong with you people?? My husband and I had a couple shower and it was an absolute blast! It was an outside catered affair where couples came and celebrated with us. It was an awesome way for extended family and friends to get to know my husband in a cozy atmosphere. We still had our own gender specific showers, but we both agree the couple shower was our favorite.

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41. Posted by Nicole on Thu, Aug 07, 2008, 2:47 pm PDT

Keep in mind this article is for wedding showers not bachelor(ette) parties. And even those can be co-ed. If you don't like an idea you don't have to do it.

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42. Posted by Nicole on Thu, Aug 07, 2008, 2:49 pm PDT

Keep in mind this article is for wedding showers not bachelor(ette) parties. And even those can be co-ed. If you don't like an idea you don't have to do it.

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43. Posted by on Tue, Aug 12, 2008, 8:49 am PDT

We hosted a Lawn & Garden shower for friends with a bbq theme & it was a huge hit, b/c the gifts were actually items that were for their home & the men got into it as well.

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45. Posted by marlilea21 on Thu, Aug 21, 2008, 1:29 pm PDT

I like the idea of having a couples shower. I've also heard of having co-ed party before the wedding, instead of the bachelor/bachelorette parties.

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46. Posted by Lorie on Fri, Aug 22, 2008, 8:18 am PDT

Why are women the only ones who have to suffer through showers (wedding, baby, etc.). Men have gotten out of it long enough.

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47. Posted by Court on Fri, Aug 22, 2008, 8:43 am PDT

I think this is a great idea! One of the couples I was friends with had a couple's shower, and it was by far the best shower I've ever been to. It gave the opportunity to celebrate them as a couple! It also provided a chance in todays culture when people are getting married in their late 20's or early 30's - well after the time when people have a fully stocked kitchen! - with gifts they could truly use instead of traditional "wifey" things. Great article, and great idea!

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48. Posted by bobr1111 on Fri, Aug 22, 2008, 8:50 am PDT

It's bad enough women have to attend wedding showers and play the silly games - but that's the tradition. I agree that no man should attend a shower. Not to mention a "couples" shower might deter your single friends from attending.

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49. Posted by Denyse E on Fri, Aug 22, 2008, 8:52 am PDT

nice idea...but how is this different from the rehearsal dinner or the reception? if it works for you, then fine.. but I think a traditional hen/stag night is best- unless the groom wants to join in the shower and be the entertainment!!

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50. Posted by ~Tammy~ on Fri, Aug 22, 2008, 9:11 am PDT

I had a CO Ed wedding shower. The guys in my family that did show up stayed outside. So my husband felt odd. We eloped in January 08 & had a ceremony 06/08

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51. Posted by KIKI on Fri, Aug 22, 2008, 9:41 am PDT

men should not be at a shower, how is eggrolls japanese???

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52. Posted by mr_silly_guy1 on Fri, Aug 22, 2008, 9:53 am PDT

Why do you have to throw a SHOWER to celebrate the couple. Good god, it seems that it is all about the friggin gifts...

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53. Posted by Charro on Fri, Aug 22, 2008, 10:03 am PDT

My wife and I had a wedding shower where we gave all of our guests cards at the beginning. The cards told each of our guests what we thought was wrong with them and how happy we were not to be them. The guests were mad at first, but then we drugged them all. They're still asleep.

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54. Posted by lovergirldear on Fri, Aug 22, 2008, 10:10 am PDT

i think it is a wonderful idea , as a matter of fact when i had my baby shower my fiance was there as well , and no not cause i made him , he wanted to be there . He said he was a part of the baby and that he wanted to be there . I honestly think people need to be more opened minded , it's a new day and age, guys are not as closed minded as they used to be . I'm so glad i have a man that wants to be involved with those special events , not alot of guys do . Well bottom line i love the idea and yeah when i have my bridal shower my fiance WILL be there .

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55. Posted by kent j on Fri, Aug 22, 2008, 1:47 pm PDT

My buddies took me first to a driving range... had a blasts, second to a Dave and Busters to a pretend driving range and then to an 8 player night of Halo. I dont think that can compare with a party trying to accomodate women. ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ (ps.. strippers at a bachelor party in my book should LOSE the guys right to get married.. its SICK and DISGUSTING... you guys that smile at this behavior or encourage it... a hearty ef you)

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56. Posted by Janie on Fri, Aug 22, 2008, 2:36 pm PDT

I have been married for 4 years. My second his first. We didnt have a shower. But I wish we would have had a co-ed one. After the wedding we went back home with family and opened our gifts. I didnt get to open a single one. He was so excited. It was really cute. For some guys, I dont think the shower would be good idea but it would have been wonderful for him.

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57. Posted by Linda L on Fri, Aug 29, 2008, 3:43 pm PDT

I think these are great ideas - a refreshing change from the old bridal shower. I'd trade in a tea-party-brunch-gift-opening-brouhaha for one of these any day.

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58. Posted by Five o'clock Shadow on Mon, Sep 01, 2008, 12:34 am PDT

Ah... Men take showers, okay. That's if they wanna. "Couples Showers," hm... Perfect to outfit the newlywed's bathroom cleanser needs. Think about... a lifetime's supply of TILEX!

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59. Posted by sassyroz80 on Wed, Sep 03, 2008, 11:14 am PDT

I love the idea of a co-ed shower themed or not. Like many have said before men love gifts as well as women. I believe that there is a difference between engagement parties and wedding showers. The engagement party is when you annouce your engagement to family and friends - I've been to a few and no gifts where given (I'm sure its different with other people) whereas the wedding shower (all themed by the way) gifts where given because now the couple is closer to there wedding date and have had the time to make a registry at the stores they love.

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60. Posted by choice J on Wed, Sep 03, 2008, 11:19 am PDT

ok, here it is. a co-ed or couples shower is the ultimate fun. at a shower the gifts are geared toward the couple.(home furnishings, china, monogrammed towels,sheets, etc.) there is no reason for him not to be there. Gifts for a bachelorette party include lingerie, honeymoon outfits, lotions,perfume;things strictly for her. this is where seperate parties come in. He doesn't come with her and she doesn't go with him. I think the ideas were great. You have to keep it all in perspective. If it is not for you then move on.

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