1. Posted by Howell on Sat, Jun 28, 2008, 12:25 pm PDT

The co-ed wedding shower has existed for thousands of years: it's called the WEDDING RECEPTION, genius. No wonder there is no author's name on thses articles.

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2. Posted by brandonblake@sbcglobal.net on Mon, Jun 30, 2008, 4:57 am PDT

no such thing as a couple shower. no man should ever be expected to go to a shower. unless you are actually showering with all of the girls. this article is extremely dumb." kickin' " really?

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3. Posted by enlm98 on Wed, Jul 02, 2008, 12:16 pm PDT

Yea I agree the only time a man should be at a bridal shower is when he is there to load everything up in the car, when the party is over.

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4. Posted by tmrj008 on Wed, Jul 02, 2008, 6:25 pm PDT

Egg rolls and fortune cookies are not "sushi favourites". Wrong culture and in very bad taste.

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5. Posted by Misty S on Thu, Jul 03, 2008, 7:53 am PDT

THE FOOD IDEAS ARE COOL, BUT THE CO-ED THING NO WAY.

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6. Posted by Nicci on Thu, Jul 03, 2008, 8:10 am PDT

What is wrong with you people? I think it is a great idea. I would love to invite family and friends to give US (the two of us) gifts besides girly things that only I want. I want my fiance to be included and I think that having a cookout a wedding shower and having a few beers is the best way to do that.

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7. Posted by Nicci on Thu, Jul 03, 2008, 8:10 am PDT

What is wrong with you people? I think it is a great idea. I would love to invite family and friends to give US (the two of us) gifts besides girly things that only I want. I want my fiance to be included and I think that having a cookout a wedding shower and having a few beers is the best way to do that.

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8. Posted by beejelina on Thu, Jul 03, 2008, 8:12 am PDT

I think I would call this an engagement party. Great ideas for the reception as well! We are "second go-rounders" in our late 30's and we would like to do an engagement party with friends so these are some really great ideas. My cousin did the Mexican theme at winery the night before the wedding. It was a lot of fun to have a relaxed dinner with friends and relatives the night before the "big day".

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9. Posted by lysilopez_4510 on Thu, Jul 03, 2008, 8:35 am PDT

i love the idea of the italian themed party!...sounds de-lish and romantic

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10. Posted by Audrey N on Thu, Jul 03, 2008, 9:16 am PDT

It is sad that some would limit pre-wedding activities with the one that they love due to lame constructed gender conventions.

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11. Posted by imanii4u on Thu, Jul 03, 2008, 10:21 am PDT

I love the idea of men participating in pre-wedding activities. Why is the world would they be excluded anyway. But wow..."MAN and wife"? This is archaic and sexist usage which implies ownership of one person over another. The more appropriate terms are husband and wife/wife and husband/partners. One way to increase relationship equity and positive gender realization is to use terms that foster equity.

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12. Posted by Noelle on Thu, Jul 03, 2008, 10:54 am PDT

For the record... my (now) husband, came to my shower... and everyone there loved him (most had not met him)... granted he did show up with 2 dozen rose! As long as you don't expect the guy to open a million pairs of ladies underwear or honeymoon outfits, there is no reason he can't come... My husband LIKED to be a part of the gift receiving... weddings aren't about the bride, they're about the couple!

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13. Posted by ConejitaCoqueta on Thu, Jul 03, 2008, 12:52 pm PDT

I love the idea- It would be fun and no one is saying that just because you do this, you can't also do the guys night out, or the girls only night. But it's an alternative to the those couples who are looking forward to their wedding and not considering the fact that months before the wedding are the last moments of being single. I really love the theme ideas as well with the food ideas-- they are great!

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14. Posted by Stacey on Sat, Jul 05, 2008, 10:03 am PDT

I think that these ideas are wonderful for couples' showers. If you are the type of person that thinks that only women should attend a "bridal shower," then why did you read this article to begin with? And to the person that complained about the article and made the comment about there not being a named author -- you obviously did NOT do a good job of reading -- the authors names (there are two writers) are at the top of the article with their pictures.

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15. Posted by maggie p on Mon, Jul 07, 2008, 5:41 am PDT

I was married in 1954, and we had a wedding shower, in stead of bridal shower....there were as many guys at the shower as gals..and gifts for him, as well as for her. and all the joking ect: was a real hoot....much more fun than bridal shower and bachelor party.....try it ...you'll love it....

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16. Posted by Emmie on Tue, Jul 08, 2008, 2:11 pm PDT

This is a very quickly increasing form of party for couples that are about to get hitched. This is the type of shower that almost all of my friends have had. I think the guys are thinking that the event will still include giggling and finger foods. These are more like parties than showers, usually including beer/wine/liquor and, with my friends, even live music. There are plenty of single girls at these parties. But if you boys want to be stubborn, that's ok. It will leave the smart ones for us single girls to hang out with.

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17. Posted by skyye on Tue, Jul 08, 2008, 2:27 pm PDT

Good ideas (the article)... lame responses mostly. It seems like everyone either needs to be PC (lighten up!) or wants to argue with other faceless individuals (a serious red flag for mental issues - if this is you, see your therapist!) I think people should celebrate the way that pleases THEM the most - too bad what everyone else thinks! Do what makes you happy.

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18. Posted by Alice on Tue, Jul 08, 2008, 3:23 pm PDT

WOW... I don't get why people have to be jerks, this article is not telling you what to do, it's giving you suggestions. We had several couple parties and it was great, friends wanted to celebrate our marriage not just me. I agree with skyye, lighten up people!

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19. Posted by Bree on Tue, Jul 08, 2008, 3:33 pm PDT

really, egg roles and fortune cookies at a sushi party???!

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20. Posted by summerbeachblonde on Thu, Jul 10, 2008, 5:02 am PDT

A coed wedding shower is a wonderful idea for sophisticated, mature couples. The themes presented above were fun and festive. My friends and I enjoy "couples" parties rather than the old traditional "women" only "Tupperware", "man bashing" variety. Think about it, you are going to be a couple and men like getting gifts too. In fact, the best cooks in my group of friends are guys! Yes, it is a "new world", men now cook, clean, and even decorate.

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21. Posted by mt4653 on Fri, Jul 11, 2008, 11:36 am PDT

We just finished putting on a co-ed shower and it went well, the theme was travel so we had foods from all over the world. Sushi from Japan, Swedish meatballs, Carnitas....etc. The beverages were flowing and the food was great. All guests had a great time, the men even took part in the silly games.

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22. Posted by Mindi on Wed, Jul 16, 2008, 9:17 am PDT

I don't know why you wouldn't have a co-ed shower. They're so much more fun than a bunch of women dressing eachother up in toilet paper. I just got engaged and my fiance and I are planning on having a stock the wine cellar shower. It'll be a great way for our friends to get to know eachother better before the wedding!

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23. Posted by Nic on Thu, Jul 17, 2008, 11:02 am PDT

Yea I'm pretty sure this is an engagement party... there are too many pre-wedding celebrations in my opinion. Engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette party....THEN the wedding and reception? Yikes. Not for me.

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24. Posted by judyann143 on Thu, Jul 17, 2008, 11:18 am PDT

Oh my what ever happened to the old fashion tradition of Bridal showers?

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25. Posted by ejc0782 on Thu, Jul 17, 2008, 6:36 pm PDT

I think a co-ed shower is best. I agree that you are a couple, and the man should be involved, too

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26. Posted by greeniisnurse on Sun, Jul 20, 2008, 2:11 pm PDT

My sister gave my husband and I a couple's shower. We had a blast. The women invited bring their men and we opened gifts together. At this particular shower, we recieved gifts like patio furniture, gas grill accessories, stuff for both of us. We saved the china and silverware like shower for just me. Anyway, the couples thing was much fun, centered around the pool in my sister's back yard, we grilled and swam had drinks and had a ball! You men with the gender complex thing should really grow up!

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27. Posted by greeniisnurse on Sun, Jul 20, 2008, 2:12 pm PDT

My sister gave my husband and I a couple's shower. We had a blast. The women invited bring their men and we opened gifts together. At this particular shower, we recieved gifts like patio furniture, gas grill accessories, stuff for both of us. We saved the china and silverware like shower for just me. Anyway, the couples thing was much fun, centered around the pool in my sister's back yard, we grilled and swam had drinks and had a ball! You men with the gender complex thing should really grow up!

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28. Posted by a2b16 on Tue, Jul 22, 2008, 9:37 am PDT

the whole idea is a little bit strange to me..but then again...i'm still in high school!!! i guess that would make sense

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29. Posted by Jo on Wed, Jul 23, 2008, 12:18 pm PDT

Way back in the mid '70s my friends threw us a couple's shower because our close group friends was composed of both men & women (wow--what a concept!). Nope, I didn't have an engagement party or other showers; this just made sense because of our circle of friends. Now my husband did refuse recently to go to a baby shower because he just wasn't interested & felt that was "women's stuff" (although he changed plenty of diapers & got up in the middle of the night for our babies). So I can see how people would be on one side or the other about co-ed showers.

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30. Posted by jasmine_nlsn on Fri, Jul 25, 2008, 2:19 pm PDT

I hate the idea of doing things seperately for a wedding! The point is to celebrate the two of you! I want my groom to equally feel included in the whole thing. Great Ideas!

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