1. Posted by momster2550 on Fri, May 15, 2009, 1:53 pm PDT

OK! If you are over 21 then yeah, you've had these things come up! Recently, one of my gal pals, a casual acquaintance, was wearing a beautiful sweater and all I could think was "geesh, why won't you buy yourself some new bras too"! So, how should we tell our gal pals ~ especially the ones we don't know well ~ they need new bras?

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2. Posted by Melanie on Fri, May 15, 2009, 2:06 pm PDT

What's a diplomatic way to tell a woman she might have a stain of the back of her pants or skirt? If the woman is a close friend or family member, it wouldn't be that big of a deal. But my fiance told me of an instance many years ago before we met, that he saw a lady he worked with wearing white pants at a party or something, and she had a big stain on the back. He didn't say anything because he didn't want to embarass her, but as a woman I can say that she probably would have wanted to know about it before walking around like that all night. I told him that it might have been best to tell another female to pass the message on. Any other ideas or suggestions?

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3. Posted by J T on Fri, May 15, 2009, 3:50 pm PDT

...might as well don't get married either. All the "traditions" you'd like to do without are the core and most well known. I don't agree!

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4. Posted by cassmar101 on Fri, May 15, 2009, 6:03 pm PDT

Melanie- I'd be mortified if that was me and no one told me!! Yeah, I think it's best to tell a female who may be closer to that person than you are, if that's possible. But she should definitely be told!

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5. Posted by Deya on Sun, May 17, 2009, 7:32 pm PDT

How would you make someone to close her mouth from asking you personal things? like, are you pregnant again? are you going to have more kids? how do you like being married? how is it going with the little one? etc....I think all this kind of questions are very personal, and it is a little uncomfortable to talk about personal life with someone you barely know, isn't it? maybe people notice so much happiness and want to make you share it, making all those questions.

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6. Posted by eryx_vellereigne on Sun, May 17, 2009, 7:42 pm PDT

this is really usefull.....yet the last two are so eew....ha ha ha... more power to your site....send me a message if you have read my comment....

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7. Posted by soccerpuppy96 on Sun, May 17, 2009, 7:50 pm PDT

yeah i could never tell a friend a lot of that stuff

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8. Posted by linda c on Sun, May 17, 2009, 8:24 pm PDT

there is always a tactful way to handle most situations, I guess just think how you would like to be told these things and go from there

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9. Posted by muyeh1 on Sun, May 17, 2009, 8:37 pm PDT

OMG!!! Be human and polite and let the other person know what is wrong. It is the decent and proper thing to do. Reverse the situation and then what?

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10. Posted by moninaincissor on Sun, May 17, 2009, 8:37 pm PDT

it's really hard to tell someone who have one of those mentioned but for me it's better to tell that person straight forward delivering it in a nice way and politely instead of letting that person be embarrased in a crowd. If that person happened to be a member of your family memeber or a very very close friend no worries and hesitations to tell them right? It shows how you love and care for them and being concerned and you don't want them to be humiliated by others just because of that. True friends tell you what you got on your face or anything without judgment and thinks for your sake. that what friends are for.

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11. Posted by anjell1986 on Sun, May 17, 2009, 8:59 pm PDT

about the bra situation say something like"hey the sweater looks good lets go a bra from Victoria secret to match it" with a excited girl smile lol

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12. Posted by shaman434 on Sun, May 17, 2009, 9:02 pm PDT

If you take this subject seriously, you are a culture zombie.

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13. Posted by uwais_leo on Sun, May 17, 2009, 9:02 pm PDT

this is great! i've never thought of saying those thing when im with my friends. this could help me a lot.. :)

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14. Posted by shaman434 on Sun, May 17, 2009, 9:06 pm PDT

I know someone whom people thought was pregnant, at times people spoke behind her back and gossiped, yet she had a tumor, it was just a tumor. She was awaiting surgery, but it was so obvious stupid people wanting something to talk about made her feel horrible about it. Shame on the people who gossip and make other peoples misfortune their life. I hope feel good about yourself authors of this pointless, yet pointed article.

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15. Posted by allynn1085 on Sun, May 17, 2009, 9:20 pm PDT

a couple of weeks ago I was in class and I looked over and this girl sitting across the room had a spider crawling on her head, I debated whether or not to tell her and decided not to, she eventually felt it and freaked out lol

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16. Posted by e20train on Sun, May 17, 2009, 9:25 pm PDT

what is the correct way to say you write a stupid, stupid column?

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17. Posted by lacy_dorcie on Sun, May 17, 2009, 9:28 pm PDT

Remember, we are all human and at times may not look or be at our best/ Keeping those thoughts in mind feel comfortable to let others know when something is amiss. A kind smile or gentle chuckle will let you the other person know you have their well being in mind . If they are offended their self esteem is very low your comment did not create that low self esteem . Let it go !!

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18. Posted by dormat_030 on Sun, May 17, 2009, 9:31 pm PDT

who cares, forget what others think of u and just do ur own thing, problem solved, if i have food on my face, i dont care, throw some more on and have a party and an interesting story

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19. Posted by dormat_030 on Sun, May 17, 2009, 9:31 pm PDT

lmao, just saw #19's msg, thats great, thumbs way up

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20. Posted by cca3456 on Sun, May 17, 2009, 9:38 pm PDT

I was on a fifteen minute break at work, quickly went to the ladies roon, hopped in my car as quickly as possible, and went to a near by gas station to grab a cup of Joe. Thank goodness a complete stranger told me one of the flares of my skirt was caught in my panties! Sometimes it's a good thing to say something!

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21. Posted by 7bob8@flash.net on Sun, May 17, 2009, 9:38 pm PDT

You're just ugly. I can't believe that this is the stuff they are paying you for. Please just try to treat everyone with decent respect. If they have BO, (body odor) it might be the over sensitive nose we Americans have developed, or have pushed away 50 years ago. If you want to control society, teach people how to pull each other aside to talk about the BO, bad breath.... Don't just sit back and riducule them.

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22. Posted by dogdano on Sun, May 17, 2009, 9:45 pm PDT

LOL at 14 and 15!!! I'm reading this on the iPhone. But if you are a kid how do u tell ur friend she is chunky. A few buthead dudes makefun of her and call her a boulder and I don't think she relizes that she wieghs more than my mom!!! I'm underwight and she's xxl I just now telling ur friend is a sad mean and depressing thing. I tell her she's normal but I can't lie too much. Help me I'm gonna posst this on yahoo answers

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23. Posted by neodamage54 on Sun, May 17, 2009, 9:50 pm PDT

I have one. What if its a tampon string hanging out visiabley?? like pretty muc almost viewable for the public. Hard to explain the story but this came up.

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24. Posted by dogdano on Sun, May 17, 2009, 9:54 pm PDT

Great post u guys!don't listen to the bad ativles!!!!!!¡¡ ¡es muy vien!

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25. Posted by Stephie on Sun, May 17, 2009, 10:16 pm PDT

Very well put, however, most of the time when I have something on that's see through I'm in an environment where it's ok. I realize this might not always be the case with everyone... the other things I think I'd want to know regardless of who mentions it... I would be grateful for the constructive advice.

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26. Posted by Stephie on Sun, May 17, 2009, 10:24 pm PDT

Dogdano... How close a friend is she? Does the extra weight effect her activities (eg: can she run and do things you can do at your light weight?) or is she all right with the extra weight. If she being taunted by others then you might be helping her by telling her that she would be taunted less if she found a way to lose a little of the weight. You have to be loving though and not mean in your criticism.

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27. Posted by Joel P on Mon, May 18, 2009, 12:08 am PDT

Do I have something in my nose? ... Oh! I don't? Coz', you have...

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28. Posted by tinkerbell525700 on Mon, May 18, 2009, 1:36 am PDT

wow this is very interesting

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29. Posted by imelijoh on Mon, May 18, 2009, 1:57 am PDT

it is good to tell that person wether you know them or not. They will always be greatfull you saved them the embrassment

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30. Posted by only p on Mon, May 18, 2009, 4:41 am PDT

Someone got paid actual money to write this?

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