Whether it be bromance, wo-mance, or other best-friendship, you will face challeges as complicated as any romantic relationship. Staying fun and worry-free actually requires advanced social skills. Get it wrong and you could find yourself home alone on weekends, sharing the sofa with a tub of Cherry Garcia and a tube of raw cookie dough. Here, a few Foxy tips on how to avoid making frienemies with your nearest and dearests.
- Friendly Feuds Fight with a good friend can feel awful, especially if it's the first fight. In order to get your friendship back on track fast, and without any permanent scars, talk it out sooner rather than later. Don't let anger, sadness, and misunderstanding stew -- that can make matters worse. If you said something you regret, it's not the end of everything. In fact, working through hard times makes you closer. Having a sense of humor about it can help. Just call your friend and make a joke about it to break the ice.
- Drama Dudes & Debbie Downers Friends should always stand by friends in need, but some problematic pals always seem be in crisis mode -- relationship troubles, money troubles, job troubles, can't-shake-this-cold troubles. If you've got one of those in your life, call them on it! There's nothing wrong with pointing out that they have more than their share of drama... then, try to shift their focus to more positive pieces of their life. If they're a true friend, they'll appreciate your honesty and realize they can benefit from having someone to lift their spirits. What if you run into the oh-so-common case of a depressed friend won't stop sulking (and chatting) about their ex? Set up "no" zones -- like "no talking about Todd on Mondays, Wednesdays or Fridays!" A sense of humor, along with a firm (and friendly) hand, goes a long way.
- Friends With Flash & Cash It's OK that you pull up to the valet in your 1995 Toyota while your friend pulls up in her 2007 Jag. It's fine that you buy your holiday gifts on sale while she buys hers at Barneys. However, it's not OK when friends flaunt their wealth. You could send signals to try to get them to tone it down a bit by saying something like, "Things are a little challenging right now," and hope he/she gets it. Or you might try saying something directly about how the situation makes you feel. And, remember if it's you that's scored a sweet cash jackpot, remain humble -- keeping money matters on a lower profile is the honorable way to go.
- Childish Behavior You've reached a new stage in your life when your friends start having kids. And with that comes a whole new set of issues... like what to do when someone's rowdy child starts pouring juice on the carpet, pulling your dog's tail, or destroying your rose garden without getting reprimanded. In these frustrating situations, pull your friend to the side and kindly point out what their kids are doing, then ask them to help. Sometimes parents are not aware of the behavior -- we call it "Parent Brain" due to utter exhaustion! If the problems are ongoing, try to set up a child-safe play zone in your house when the crew is coming over.
- The Break-Up Sometimes friends go in different directions, and it can be tricky breaking things off with a close bud. While it may seem easier to stop returning their calls and emails to give them a hardcore hint, we recommend doing it right. Write them a letter with a polite and sincere explanation. Better yet, ask them to coffee and have an honest, in-person conversation. If you're searching for an explanation as to why you want to cool things off, try: "Life is too complicated right now, so I'm just taking a breather" or "I need a bit of alone time to work some things out..."
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