121. Posted by Cash on Mon, Nov 19, 2007, 7:35 pm PST

Those are good,but how about dont always be a guest. You also need to host sometimes, or your not a guest anymore your a free loader.

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122. Posted by chuerta212 on Mon, Nov 19, 2007, 7:57 pm PST

i'm glad to be in this country in thansgiving,is the most happy time w/macys parede and w/family and friends.... happy thansgiving everybody!!!!

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123. Posted by GOOFY WOOFY on Mon, Nov 19, 2007, 8:08 pm PST

Grammar School! The proper question is MAY I bring something. Everyone knows you can.

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124. Posted by hotchange71 on Mon, Nov 19, 2007, 8:30 pm PST

Ahhh the pleasure of having Thanksgiving at home by myself. NO RULES!!!! And I can enjoy football in my jammies.

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125. Posted by elaineblodgett on Tue, Nov 20, 2007, 8:33 am PST

thank goodness you don't go to the same parties i do!

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126. Posted by Tax Professional on Tue, Nov 20, 2007, 2:22 pm PST

Maggie, great tips, and you're gorgeous! I'm all for a cook that has the flair of Wolfgang but a little easier on the eyes! I could just sit and watch you cook all day long!

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127. Posted by EBONYMOM on Tue, Nov 20, 2007, 2:27 pm PST

Do not invite anyone else without asking!!! We were looking forward to a small gathering and one of our guests took it upon herself to invite a family of four without checking with us first. We do not even know these people and what to expect from them!!!!

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128. Posted by cselm123 on Tue, Nov 20, 2007, 2:39 pm PST

Happy Thanksgiving to all- and may your guests bring a smile to your face ! I say treasure these events- as I well know, our loved ones may not be here next year-every holiday is to be svaored and enjoyed!

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129. Posted by amy_lawson on Tue, Nov 20, 2007, 3:01 pm PST

do people really not know how to act at a holiday dinner?

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130. Posted by Mary W on Tue, Nov 20, 2007, 3:14 pm PST

These guidelines are good, but how far one goes in following them depends on who they are spending the holiday with. Is it family that gets together every year or is it with new friends or business associates. With family we can be less formal, with new friends or business associates we must always put our "best foot forward" so to speak.

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131. Posted by Selina d on Tue, Nov 20, 2007, 3:22 pm PST

Great list! I host often and love just feeling appreciated. most items on the list are a great way to show appreciation to your host. a gift may not be necessary, but as stated, just don't come in looking like a scrub bringing nothing but a huge appetite.

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132. Posted by santabob2005 on Tue, Nov 20, 2007, 3:40 pm PST

I think that there are a small amount of people that are very " RUDE " in their comments, after all we are all supposed to be polite, and that should be to everyone on this comment line. A gesture of being appreciative toward your host or hostess"s invitation is always a nice thing to do and to ask if it would be okay to bring something and be sincere in your offering. They were sincere, in inviting you, and if you have enjoyed yourself, may will extend an invititation to you again in the future. I always appreciate this as I am alone, no kids, and enjoy others company and their children. All this Holiday Gala is mostly about our Children, so if you are Vegetarian or don't want turkey gravy go ahead and indulge in another's receipe. If you want meat and drippings, then certainly eat that. No one holds a GUN to our heads and tells us we must eat these things that are disliked. No one should tell us to eat what we do not care for, so have a happy Holiday. Don't forget (if you want to do it) to take something as a thank you, and you can take a card with you and give it to your Host/Hostess upon you saying good night as to how you really appreciated the invitation. Always be respectful if you want to, and if leaving you thank you in person is distasteful in your estimation, then mail one.....your decision......no one should dictate the ettiquite to you and what Heloise says....this is your life, and not some one else's opinion is only gass in the wind. Happy Holidays, and remember you can always respect your hosts in very small inexpensive ways of your choosing.

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133. Posted by santabob2005 on Tue, Nov 20, 2007, 3:48 pm PST

I think that there are a small amount of people that are very " RUDE " in their comments, after all we are all supposed to be polite, and that should be to everyone on this comment line. A gesture of being appreciative toward your host or hostess"s invitation is always a nice thing to do and to ask if it would be okay to bring something and be sincere in your offering. They were sincere, in inviting you, and if you have enjoyed yourself, may will extend an invititation to you again in the future. I always appreciate this as I am alone, no kids, and enjoy others company and their children. All this Holiday Gala is mostly about our Children, so if you are Vegetarian or don't want turkey gravy go ahead and indulge in another's receipe. If you want meat and drippings, then certainly eat that. No one holds a GUN to our heads and tells us we must eat these things that are disliked. No one should tell us to eat what we do not care for, so have a happy Holiday. Don't forget (if you want to do it) to take something as a thank you, and you can take a card with you and give it to your Host/Hostess upon you saying good night as to how you really appreciated the invitation. Always be respectful if you want to, and if leaving you thank you in person is distasteful in your estimation, then mail one.....your decision......no one should dictate the ettiquite to you and what Heloise says....this is your life, and not some one else's opinion is only gass in the wind. Happy Holidays, and remember you can always respect your hosts in very small inexpensive ways of your choosing.

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134. Posted by westwoman on Tue, Nov 20, 2007, 4:01 pm PST

Suggestion #13: Don't bring along uninvited and unexpected guests. The host/hostess has estimated the amount of food that will be enough for everyone.

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135. Posted by Scott A on Tue, Nov 20, 2007, 4:29 pm PST

15. Posted by lrenault on Sat, Nov 17, 2007, 11:10 am PST ("Don't forget to have someone say a prayer of thanksgiving...after all, that's what this holiday is all about!') Thanksgiving is not a religious holiday. Is is a day to thankfully remember the time before the Pilgrims started killing the Native Americans.

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136. Posted by holly9853@sbcglobal.net on Wed, Nov 21, 2007, 8:09 pm PST

Good stuff Maggie Nemser..wonder how often you read these silly comments. Gives a good giggle huh! Silly people! Happy Thanksgiving!!! Count your blessings when you give thanks people!! Also I'd like to share what i tell my 5 yr old. "If you dont have anything NICE to say, just dont say anything at all!!" ;-)

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137. Posted by holly9853@sbcglobal.net on Wed, Nov 21, 2007, 8:12 pm PST

oh ya, i want to add another no no at dinner...please dont argue!!

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